Despite Popular Belief, Compromising Is Bullshit

Doesn't matter if it comes to your relationships, friendships, dreams, etc. Compromising shouldn't be an option. This concept is unpopular because people are brainwashed to think that you should be meeting someone in the middle on everything. Nope. I will argue this all day. But if I am unhappy in any relationship then it's done. There have been a few occasions where I met a guy and he immediately hated that many of my best friends were men. And that's a huge red flag to me because if you can't understand that and accept it then you aren't worth my time. My friends are everything to me so that is something I will never compromise on.

Another thing I have experienced is a guy wanting me to compromise my dreams. He made it seem like if I compromised just a little that we both would be able to live our lives together and both be happy. SIKE. Never will I ever dumb down my dreams for another person. You can try to make it seem as glamorous as possible, but it won't work. My goals and aspirations are the most important thing to me. I will never put myself in a box, to make you happier. Nobody should no matter how much you love someone.

Things that are acceptable for compromise are deciding where to go for dinner or deciding what to watch on T.V. Friends, family, and goals are things I will never compromise on. If someone cannot accept you and who you are then they aren't the one. And that's another thing. You should never under any circumstance, compromise who you are for someone else.

Many people give up on who they are and where they came from in order to fit someone's ideal image of them. You won't ever find me doing that. I am who I am and if you don't love me for 100% of who I am then you are not worthy of my love. If you say "I love you but you're kinda needy," that just means you love an idea of me and you do not actually love me. You can say you love me all you want, but if there's a "but" in there, then guess what? You do not love me. It's that simple. People need to take notice to that more. If you ever ask someone if there was one thing they could change about you and they respond with anything other than "nothing," LEAVE THEM!

Your happiness is far more important than dumbing yourself down for a mediocre relationship. This goes for literally any relationship whether it be romantic, platonic, or a family member. Make sure you stay true to yourself because that is what will attract the best people for you. Never be willing to compromise your life for someone or something else.

~Feed the Soul