Girl Code, of course

There are infinite rules to Girl Code and some that could really depend on the situation at hand. But the ones I'm concerned about, are not up for debate. There are 7 basic rules to Girl Code. And of course, there are different aspects to each rule. Let's break them down.

1. The Check-In

Checking in on your best friends is absolutely crucial. This includes many different things. Always check how your girl is feeling. Girls' moods change pretty frequently so it's important to ask at least once a day. Check in with her about any different or new guys she may be seeing. Whether that's serious or just a fling doesn't matter because you just want to know about it. Even ask your girls about their new or current job. Ask if they're happy and ask them what they have to do every day. Checking in on these basic topics will strengthen your friendship in ways you didn't think possible.

2. Search & Rescue

Always, always save your girl from the creepy guys talking to her at the bar. You know she doesn't want their attention. Come up with a signal for each other to let the other know when they need to be saved. And not only should you rescue her from guys, but rescue her from herself sometimes. Girls tend to self-sabotage. So sometimes, we need saving from ourselves. We can't always see what's best for us and kind of decide on things in the moment. If you see this happening, you have to help.

3. Protect

This could be as simple as waiting for her to walk into her house before driving away. This means a lot to anyone. Plus it's just an easy and effective gesture. It takes 10 seconds to make sure your friends are safe whether it be 3 am or broad daylight. This also goes for never letting your girl walk home alone; especially when it's dark. Being protective of your friends is a good thing and can assure that you will keep each other safe.

4. Venting

I feel like some people get this part wrong. When a girl says "I need to vent" she means that she wants to bitch at you about her tragic life and doesn't want you to give any advice and just simply agree and nod your head. She wants to talk about her bullshit without being judged or analyzed. Unless of course she specifically asks for your advice. If she doesn't ask, then don't give it. And always make sure you are actively listening. Don't just sit and stare and not pay attention. Ask her questions, make her repeat things you didn't get.

5. Outfits

Now this is a pretty important part. Girls can be sensitive about what they are wearing, but if it's your best friend then you HAVE to be honest. First, you have to tell her if she "looks fat." Now this doesn't necessarily mean she looks fat. Stay with me here. Anytime your friend asks a question like "Does this make me..." you always let her know the truth. If she looks fat, tell her. If she looks misshapen, tell her. If she looks in any way less than perfection and she wants your honest opinion, you tell her. That's just a good friend. Let's say you're both out for the night and her wardrobe malfunctions, always (and I mean always) let her know. We don't need nip slips. A tip: carry safety pins! One major thing concerning outfits is if your friend wants to borrow something, LET THEM. Personally, I like to wait until I have worn something once before I let my friend borrow it but if it's an emergency then yes go for it.

6. BOYS

This is hands down, the most important part you have to follow. If you break any other rules, it can be easy to overcome, but this is absolutely the one thing you cannot fuck up. First and foremost, stay away from you best friend's crush/boyfriend. This is a given; for most people. Even if he comes on to you first, you decline it and throw a drink at him. Then, you tell her! Speaking of telling her things, if her significant other cheats on her, YOU TELL HER. What kind of friend are you if you don't? "It's none of my business." Bullshit. If you know about it, you tell her about it. Also, stay away from exes, siblings, and always ask before pursuing guy best friends. Sure it shouldn't be a big deal, but it could make your girl uncomfortable if her two best friends are dating. And god forbid it goes wrong, then she has to deal with the mess and the awkwardness. And the final aspect of this rule (and most crucial) never ever fight over a guy. That is the dumbest thing you can do with your best friend. No man (or little boy) is worth the amazing friendship you have.

7 Just in General

These rules are just some simple things that should be followed with no specific category to them. Give out your hairbands. Yes do it, I know it's hard but it's your best friend. Share tampons. This is kind of important because you should always be helping your girl out especially in this kind of mess. When your best friend is going through a break up, you need to be there. Call out of work if you have to for the day. It's not a big deal. And never ditch them in the midst of their break up. They need you in that time more than they ever have before. Never degrade your bestie or slut-shame her. We all make stupid choices in men so just be supportive. Give away compliments like you give away candy on Halloween. Except, your friend shouldn't have to come knocking on your door and beg for them. You love her right? So make sure she knows it. Never hate a woman if you have never met her before. I know if your friend hates her you try to be supportive and hate on her together, but that's not fair. Women should stick together no matter what. Guys are already against us, we can't turn on each other. Another thing you should always do is, send screenshots to your bestie group chats of the interactions you have with boys (when necessary). They will always give you good advice, and a good laugh. And lastly, also the most fun, brunch is NECESSARY after a great night out to nurse a hangover. You can catch up and reminisce on the crazy night you just had. It's one of the most fun things you get to do with your best friends. And it has Sex and the City vibes and everyone loves that show.

Overall, make time for your friends and stay loyal. Stay true to yourself and always be honest with your friends. It could cause some drama, but in the long run they'll thank you for it. When you are honest and loyal, they can tell that those are the ones they want to stick around. Women today tend to ruin their female friendships without realizing that these are the most important ones. They will be there for you in ways your male friends just can't. We need to stick together more and support one another. Girls nights are the best nights and the ones you will never forget.

~Feed the Soul